Step 2
#2 -Identify what was taken from you
Proposition 1 says that “All crimes cause debts.” Not only was something done to you, the bad guy/gal took something from you as well. This step is harder to get your head around. Take a look at the following list. When they did the crime to you (last step) what did they take? Maybe it was money or material goods? Maybe it was an opportunity (career, etc.)? Write it down. No doubt more was taken from you. Victims express two phenomenons post-violation. They experience the loss of something and the presence of something new. Go through the list and identify the items that really ring true to you and your situation. This is the hardest step. No one wants to admit that they really let someone take something so vaulable from them.
List 2- What was taken from you
Loss of Material
Loss of Opportunity
Loss of Reputation,
Loss of Livelihood,
Loss of Hope
Loss of Confidence,
Loss of Self-respect,
Loss of Trust in others,
Loss of sense of empowerment,
Loss of sense of value,
Loss of identity,
Loss of sense of innocence,
Loss of reputation,
Loss of comfort,
Loss of health,
Loss of sense of purity,
Loss of wholeness,
Loss of peace,
Loss of a sense of control,
Loss of sense of safety,
Loss of ability to make sense out of the world,
Loss of the ability to love others,
Loss of ability to be vulnerable,
Loss of joy,
Loss of happiness,
Loss of friends,
Loss of family,
Loss of past way of life,
Loss of autonomy,
Loss of meaning and purposePresence of nightmares,
Presence of questioning God’s power, His love, His goodness
Presence of cynicism
Presence of Shame,
Presence of insecurities,
Presence of New fears,
Presence of feeling dirty,
Presence of feeling unattractive,
Presence of feeling unlovable
Presence of feeling unloving,
Presence of desire for vengeance,
Presence of anger,
Presence of depression,
Presence of despair,
Presence of Guilt,
Presence of Ambivalence
Presence of rage,
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